just a reflection

for the past three months, a dear friend of mine was in a roller coaster ride, and she is still until now.

she broke up with her boyfriend for a lame reason and until now they are still running around circles, chasing each other, deciding on nothing! a very sad fact!

to keep it more complicated, theyve tagged along a lot of people in their crazy situation.

i, in particular, has been putting my heart on her situation. along with our other close friends, we felt her pain, thus, giving her advices!

i never thought that it would come to this point where i dont want to be involve anymore because its making me crazy! one day, she's crying her heart out, saying things against the guy. the next day, she's already ok again because they are talking and seeing each other again!

i have been reflecting on her situation and mine. and this is what i end up thinking.
that, we dont have any right to put pain and anger in this body because this is not ours. this body is the temple of the holy spirit and we should not dwell on pain. if we have an opportunity to get out of pain, pray for the grace of God to help us because we are ruining our spirit, which is the spirit of the Lord living in us.

that, we put our destiny in the hands of God. we ask Him in prayer to lead us and help us decide on things that mattered to us. and as we keep on praying, wait because God has better solutions than what we hand on our hands.

that, God is the only One who can comfort us. no other man has the right to treat us with cruelty, and would cause so much pain. and if someone did caused us pain, it is only God that can take it away.

that, there are no living martyrs in this world. only a wife, a mother, can give her life to the family that she has. (but this one will stir up controversey..)

there may be lots of things that i do not understand. i do believe that time will make me understand the situation. once, long time ago, i stood up with all the beliefs that i have written above. it helped me through the pain. and it made me understand that there are more to life that what we think of. there is a bigger plan, a better future that only God knows. and i desired for that.

so to make me a good friend, i also realized that silence is sometimes the best advice i can give. no words, just understanding (though i am still in doubt), and prayers.